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Lessons in Grace & Grit: Wisdom Women Used To Pass Down
In a world where we often look forward for inspiration, sometimes the best lessons come from looking back—way back. Women of centuries ago weren’t just quiet, submissive figures. These were women who knew how to navigate complicated political landscapes, handle family responsibilities, and hold down the fort in ways that still resonate with us today. They mastered the art of grace and grit, balancing power with poise.
Here’s a deep dive into how we can channel that same energy from these old-school Goddesses and Queens and bring it into our modern lives.
What We Can Learn From Them
Women from centuries. ago lived in societies that were structured very differently from today, yet their ability to thrive in the midst of limitations and societal expectations is something to admire. They led with grace, resilience, and intelligence, adapted to the challenges in their paths, and understood when and how to strategize work-arounds for their goals.
These women were pioneers in their own right—whether they were negotiating treaties, ruling nations, or managing households. They blended decorum with strength and tackled obstacles with determination, even when their roles were heavily restricted. What can we take away from these powerful women? That balance is key. Whether you’re facing personal challenges, striving to lead with confidence, or juggling the many roles modern life throws your way, their lessons still apply.
10 Things You Can Do to Live by These Old-School Queen Principles
- Establish Your Confidence
Just like the regal women of old, confidence starts with what you know, what you know how to do well, your execution track record in keeping your word to yourself and your inner audience. Whether you’re walking into a boardroom or your local grocery store, own your wealth and carry it proudly. Shoulders back, chin up, no rush (unless rush unless rush is mandatory)—let your inner audience feel your belonging. - Master the Art of Composure
Life’s challenges are inevitable, but how you respond makes all the difference. Women of old knew the power of grace under gritty pressure. Practice guiding your emotions in chaotic situations. The more emotional control you have the further you will get in life. Emotional control is not coldness or the lack of empathy. Emotional control is the crafty art handle stresses while knowing that there is a solution even if it hasn’t shown itself yet. The patience to seek, find or wait for the answer is what will help you stay composed and internally strong. - Cultivate Inner Strength
Grace wasn’t just about appearance and polite conversation—it was backed by a solid foundation of accepting truth and learning how to work with the truths to empower and advocate for herself, children, and community. Push yourself to develop resilience for digesting hard truths. When realities knock you down, look at it in the face and get up with more fire for planning with it, planting that as a seed to push you hire than before. Strength is built in the hard truths and hard times. Women of-century’s past knew that well a resiliently navigate tough waters. - Be Strategic in Your Actions
Old-school women weren’t just floating around in royal abayas and gowns—they were calculating, strategic, and always thinking ahead. Whether in your career or personal life, don’t just float day to day or situation to situation. Be intentional, plan your moves, think ahead, and always consider your long-term goals over short term impulses. - Invest in Self-Education
Many women of old were highly educated, although the education may not meet todays equivalence of higher education. Women of old spoke multiple languages, understood and influenced local politics, reduced tribal conflicts, practice tribal medicine healing their community, knew and ran their family’s business, even when society didn’t expect them to be in charge, in many cases men were the face of things that women ran. Most women have forever honed emotional intelligence which is a critical trait modern science is just catching up to. Our executed knowledge is power. So keep learning, executing and growing—read, take courses, stay curious. The more you know and execute, the more unstoppable you become. - Build Your Network
Women of every station were taught to create alliances. They understood that connections were key to success. Start building your own network. Surround yourself with people who connect you to opportunities, people you need too know, and mention your name in rooms among people you haven’t me yet. The key in an alliance is that it is a mutually beneficial relationship. Mutually beneficial will not always mean equally beneficial. There will be many occasion where either you or the other person will have more to offer. Understanding the nature of each relationship is a great forecast for your growth or assisting someone in theirs. - Pay Attention, Especially in Conflict
Disagreements and drama are inevitable, you often don’t find out who some is. until there is a conflict. Handle conflict like the queens of old—with a strong eye for what exactly is happening and why, what is being said and what is not being said. It’s important to know how to fight and what to fight for. Speak with intention, listen carefully. Not all issues can be resolved in one fight and not all fights are worth resolving. Elegance and clear-headedness will help you understand the difference. However, fighting is a necessary life skill. When I say fighting I’m not referring to physical violence. Fighting in terms standing up for yourself, your children, or simply for what you see as the right thing to do. Women of old did not have the luxury of deluding themselves into believing all things will be love, light and positivity. Take this lesson to depths of you so that when it is necessary the skill is within. - Embrace the Power of Soft–Bitchiness
Strength doesn’t mean being hard, tough, or loud. The queens and noblewomen of the past often wielded power through moving in silence, with charm, grace, and understanding that not everyone is worthy of observing her power and even for those who are worthy can never get so comfortable that they overlook your standards and boundaries. In today’s world women allow for people in her world a level of comfort with her that they easily forget to uphold her standards. Kindness is natural for most women however do not hesitate to gently course correct anyone who steps below your standards and outside your boundaries. Don’t be afraid to embrace your softer bitch—its far more effective than being tough and loud. This gives other the opportunity to course correct or dismiss themselves without embarrassment to you or them.. - Dress for the Next Level of Life You Want
Fashion has and will always be a powerful tool for women to assert sexuality, status and influence. You don’t need royal gowns or high end designer, but dressing with intention sends a powerful message that intellect or words will never convery. Whether it’s for yourself or the outside world, dress in a way that reflects the energy and success you want to be and attract. - Live Your Worth
Women of old often had to fight to be heard and recognized, but they didn’t let societal limits completely define them. Many fully embraced their worth. Today, don’t settle for less than you deserve—whether it’s in your relationships, career, or personal growth. Find your You are valuable, and it’s time to start owning it like the queen you are.
